Temper ! Anger ! Frustration ! Are you a short fuse ? My way to manage it better!By:Chef Nicholas Anderson
Chef life can put you in a lot of situations with regards to stress , mood swings , people around you , guest , family ! And sometimes these situations make you tick off and then crap starts ... Ever though how to manage this abit better before the can of oil hits the fire??? Lol come on we all have that opsss moment when the wrong word slipped out and you regretted it ah !!! And your stuburn mind didn't back off until something made you realise it's not worth the crap !!! Let me give you a few wise tips that can help you out the next time you see the oil and a fire about to start ...
Counting to 10 isn't just for kids. Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.
As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening , or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse.
To avoid criticizing or placing blame , which might only increase tension, use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework."
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses , whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
Finally Humor, Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com