Are you in a controlled relationship?or you don't realise it ? Let me help you .By:Chef Nicholas Anderson
Yes it's a hard subject topic or what ever you want to call it , why ?? Well often there is so many commitments that are in the middle of this ... Kids , finance etc .. So many couples just continue with a manipulative relation and faking happiness on the out side , knowing very well it's grinding them so bad inside .
Nobody should be stuck in that situation , we all have choices ,the hard choices can be also the most rewarding ,and not making the right choices and continuing to be blinded to the reality that your relationship of many years ago has changed for what ever reason and resigning your self to a submissive relation is the best ??? Common wake up before you get to old , I have put together a little mind quiz for you to evaluate yourself and situation ... If your still on my blog now them go through all with a true honesty to your self !
Does your partner:
Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
Put down your accomplishments or goals?
Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
Tell you that you are nothing without them?
Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
Blame you for how they feel or act?
Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?
Prevent you from doing things you want - like spending time with your friends or family?
Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson"?
Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?
Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?
Does this person bring out your best, or worst traits? Do you feed each others' best self, or have you seen your attitudes change to more closely mirror your partner's, which puts off your family and friends?
Be aware of the way he/she behaves with your family and friends, especially if she/he interrupts them, contradicts them, or behaves dismissively. If you feel you need to apologize or explain her behavior to your family or friends, there's a problem there.
Are you realizing it's just become easier not to spend time with people you've loved for years, rather than to make apologies or excuses?
Recognize excessive jealousy or possessiveness. If your partner is protective of you, that's sweet. If they're bizarrely over-protective, it's scary. Consider whether he/she constantly nags about how long it takes you to make a trip to the market or to the post office. Does she/he interrogate you if you aren't home exactly on time, or if you go out for any reason? Do they question you too intensely about why you were talking to another person? Do they tell you that you don't care about them or your children if you spend time with a friend?
Finally ,controlling, manipulative people are not able to just let things happen naturally they must control things or, in their mind, things will "get away" from them so there compelled by their inner horrors to make sure they're the one pulling all the strings. But what makes it most awful is that they're probably pretty ,handsome (you thought so, right?) and smart, funny and charming. It's no wonder you fell for them.....
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com