Changing yourself completely can be challenging, but if you are constantly disappointing yourself and failing to be the person you imagine yourself being, you may need to remodel your personality and lifestyle.
Write down your flaws. Make sure to do this in writing so that it doesn't become an exercise in making yourself feel guilty by mulling over your short comings. Take pride in the fact that you want to change yourself for the better. Simple sentences such as I am overweightor I get angry easily will work best.
Write down what you like about yourself as a person first. This will provide a much-needed positive boost before tackling your inner turmoil. Focus on things you actively do such as I'm a good father or I remember to water my house plants.
Next to each flaw, write down why you want to change. As you are writing, make sure that the reasons you give are not because other people think you should change. If you cannot find a reason within yourself to do something, you will never succeed. Moreover, the opinions of others should not dictate how you live your life. Sample reasons for the sentences above could be I do not want to die young or I don't want to hurt the people I care about
Talk to yourself about your feelings and how you feel about yourself. Think about what causes these problems and think how you will live without them.
Once you have identified your problems and your motivations, brainstorm as many ways as you can think of to fix the flaw. It may help to write out what you would be like without the flaw, and then work backwards on how you could arrive at your destination.
Sort the ideas you've come up with into a to-do list format that you can actually do every day.You may require several tasks to fix one problem To continue with the examples Count to ten before speaking every time I am angry Not yell at anyone and Smile at everyone I make eye contact with may all be under the problem of being angry.
Execute your daily list, and measure yourself against it every evening. Watch for personal improvements and trouble areas, but don't let yourself get discouraged if you slip up.
As you begin turning your flaws into strengths, continue to add other things you would like to improve about yourself and the way you interact with the world.Always be striving towards becoming a better person....don't forget you deserve the happiness you built around yourself...
By; Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com