The person who is always busy and who never gives few minutes of his time to the people in need is actually afraid of wasting his time because of believing that he has no control over his life. When that person gives away some of his time he feels insecure because of not being sure whether he will succeed in completing his own tasks or not.If that person didn’t fear to lose control of his life or if he was confident enough to believe that giving five minutes away won’t hurt his progress then he wouldn’t have been selfish.Selfishness and unmet goals
All of us have dreams and goals but some of us believe that they might not be able to reach them and that’s why they save all of their resources to themselves just to ease some of the insecurity they are feeling.Lots of selfish people have big unmet needs which make them feel insecure and the result is being afraid to give anything away not to remind themselves of their lack of control over their lives.
How to get over selfishness?
1) Understand that in most cases selfishness is weakness.
2) Learn how to feel confident about your plans, goals, dreams and meeting your needs so that you can give without feeling afraid.
3) Build more self confidence in dealing with your own life problems so that you get rid of the fear of loss of control
I spent a good part of my life giving ,giving and giving more ... I now understand better that being selfish or to generous can really affect you , so it's important to find that balance between both so you actually reach your goals and give valued support to people that appreciate it properly ...
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com