Sokha Hotel & Residence Phnom Penh, i remember arriving from the airport 5 months ago and stepping out of car and going wow what a beautiful property, great architecture design and a view over looking the city that will knock you back in your chair with excitement to witness you first sun rise or sun set , the hotel has 744 rooms , some are Appartments with kitchen for long staying guest as monthly rates are available , the food & Beverage side , well my side of operations, there are 10 outlets all across the property with a great variety of food , from authentic Japanese Takezono , to Chinese China house with great selection of live seafood , to Italian steak house , local Khmer BBQ in Tonlesap and not to over look our lobby area where you will find Champa Café with all your favorite bakery and pastry items and you will definitely visit lotus breakfast buffet or pass by the pool area a can't miss .one side of the hotel has a large convention center the perfect place for weddings , seminars , convention and events of all kinds , I get great pleasure creating menus for the specific guest requirements.
If your feeling curious about Sokha Hotels please visit the website www.sokhahotels.com
Wow how time goes so fast when your enjoying what you do , 5 months later and so many happy tummies so many people I have come across so many great events , amazing country people culture , proud to be able to share my passion to all and light the fire in some become one day great chef's .
Cambodians love to eat! Once you learn more about local cuisine, you’ll soon love Cambodian food, too. Being the Executive chef of Sokha hotel Phnom Penh for the past few month as made me discover great secrets about Khmer cuisine and the Cambodian taste .
Cambodian food is perhaps over looked in south east Asia Too often Cambodian cooking is dismissed as a lesser version of Thai or Vietnamese fare. Living in Cambodia will give you the chance to learn about this much misunderstood cuisine and enjoy its unique charms.
A typical homestyle meal will usually include a soup and a couple of stir-frys. Rice is not optional.
A normal breakfast for Cambodian is rice porridge, called bobor, that’s similar to Chinese congee. Rice and rice noodles figure heavily at the Cambodian breakfast table. A favorite way to start the day is nom banh chok, sometimes called the Cambodian national dish: rice noodles topped with a fish-based green curry gravy made with lemongrass, turmeric root, and kaffir lime. Another popular breakfast noodle preparation is kuy teav, a soup made from pork or beef bones and rice vermicelli and topped with fried shallots, green onions, and bean sprouts. Bai sach chrouk, or pork and rice, is one of Cambodia’s simplest and most delicious breakfast options.
Snacking is a popular Cambodian pastime, particularly street food like a papaya salad .If you’re worried about getting sick, the safest street foods are those that are created in front of you and served right away .which kills off bacteria. As a chef of a top five star hotel in this great country im learning things about Cambodia in a daily bases which is amazing , knowledge is power and such a great asset to share .
Leaving Switzerland last September for Cambodia was a challenging decision.... looking back now almost 5 months later , it's been one of the best decisions I have ever made , I'm right we're I want to be , cooking creating developing training innovating sharing caring in a industry and a hotel group that wants to bring its Hotels to be the leader in the Cambodian hospitality industry , I have had the privilege to spend time in each of the Sokha Hotels 5 properties and come across amazing talent & personalities , the passion to improve and learn is in ever individual working in the kitchens and this just fuels that positive energy in me to keep developing this great team 😉thank you for accepting and welcoming me to your country
They comes that time in your life that changes are needed to continue enjoying as happy life ... And it freaks you out to do them and commit to them as this could take time .
We are often told that change is uncomfortable and difficult, that it inevitably involves pain, and that to change your life is to struggle and fight against the status quo. But there is another way. Change can be gentle, spontaneous and natural – effortless, even. With the right approach, big changes can occur without the upheavals we might normally associate with such shifts.
Whereas most people create the conditions of their life by default, the practice of deliberately directing your attention can change your life enormously. This need not be a difficult or complicated process: mind control, meditation, visualizations and endless affirmations are not needed. Nature has provided us with a navigational tool: our feelings.
Bad feelings should not be ignored or suppressed they are telling you something important. When you feel bad anxious, worried, afraid, depressed ,something is wrong and you are being given a signal that your thinking is not drawing the experiences you truly desire into your life.
They should be acknowledged, accepted and dealt with. Again, there is no need for complicated methods to eliminate such feelings. Whenever you become aware of them, you know that your thoughts have drifted off onto the wrong track; gently direct your thinking back to the positive and the empowering.
When you feel very bad, it can be hard to see a way out, and it is important not to expect too much of yourself. Feelings of relief, hope or optimism are often the easiest things to reach for. Relax, accept that all is well and that, when you stop fighting so hard against your problems, life tends to support you. When a drowning man stops struggling, he floats. Thoughts of this nature and the better feelings which go with them are what you need to find.
As we set out on new pathways, the unfamiliar routes our minds need to take can seem strange and, as such, a little disconcerting. Can you recall a time when you found yourself in an unfamiliar situation? Perhaps you started a new job or moved to a new town. At first, things were uncomfortable. Soon, you got used to the new situation and you started to feel better.
The reason for the uncomfortable feelings was, as always, a result of your thinking – you probably worried about what could go wrong, about not being able to manage, about not doing well, and so on. You can reduce this ‘fear of the unknown’ by gently guiding your thoughts in an affirming and supportive direction. To change your life is to refuse to shy away from new situations. Even at such times, you can feel good. Remember: You are loved; all is well.
A new path can only be established by persistently being walked on. The new tracks you are making in your thought patterns will take time to become established, and at first they will be weak. Your thoughts may keep drifting back to the old, negative patterns. No matter keep going and, in time, you will look back in amazement at how far you have come.
All journeys proceed one step at a time, and to change your life is to acknowledge that the process is important. Relax, enjoy the ride, have fun.
This blog is dedicated to my changes in my life ...
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com
Bad days , feeling down, no motivation ??? Well we all do ! hmmm what to do about it ? The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it’s usually because I’m focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks, and personal weaknesses dominate your mind. You become jealous of your competitors and start making excuses for why you can’t succeed. In this state, you tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others, and lose self confidence.The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in your life. Make a mental list of your strengths, past successes, and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and focus on our failures. By making an effort to feel grateful, you’ll realize how competent and successful you already are. This will rejuvenate your confidence and get you motivated to build on your current success.
It might sound strange that repeating things you already know can improve your mindset, but it’s amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief. When you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to yourself is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world.
The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do you focus on what you don’t want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I’m afraid of being poor. I’m afraid no one will respect me. I’m afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone isn’t actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.
If you’re caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, you automatically define a set of actions. If you have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase your income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job, or developing a profitable website. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.
By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future you start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating yourself to take action. When know what you want, you become motivated to take action.
When my motivation starts to wane, I regain direction by creating a plan that contains two positive actions. The first one should be a small task you’ve been meaning to do, while the second should be a long-term goal. I immediately do the smaller task. This creates positive momentum. After that I take the first step towards achieving the long-term goal. Doing this periodically is great for getting out of a slump, creating positive reinforcement, and getting long-term plans moving.It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter periods of low energy, bad luck, and even the occasional failure. If you don’t discipline your mind, these minor speed bumps can turn into mental monsters. By being on guard against the motivation killers you can preserve your motivation and propel yourself to success.So be confident about yourself ...
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com
We all have had a drink , some of us a few , and some many , so many they can't recall how many!
Alcohol is a known depressant so it’s no wonder it causes depression. That’s a “no brainer.” But for me, it wasn’t always that way. I am not an authority on alcoholism or depression, so if you’re looking for medical facts or statistics on the correlation between alcohol and depression, you won’t find it here. What you will find is my real life experience and how alcohol depression manifested itself in my life and how they relate to each from that perspective. I would encourage anyone who feels they are depressed and drinking or drinking and depressed, to read through my experiences and look for the similarities and not the differences.I know that to be true from my inner core. Dealing with and accepting that is a whole different topic, What I share here is how I believe alcohol depression manifested itself in life. I have many temptations in my place ! Hard booze , wines , beers , liquors ! But have totally got back under control my drinking habits , start it this way !!
There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator. You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment ,but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (don’t be surprised to see real tears at this point) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry." Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all ,but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting them!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played don’t capitulate! Do not care take. do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit it probably is. Rule number one if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver , it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.
An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper. If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever , they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making ,which is something emotional manipulators are very good at. Rule number two ,If an emotional manipulator said YES ,make them accountable for it. Do NOT buy into the sighs ,if they don’t want to do it , make them tell you it up front or just put on the headphones and run a bath and leave them to their theater.
Crazy making ,saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it.If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity ,then you are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away. They can lie so smoothly that you can sit looking at black and they’ll call it white and argue so persuasively that you begin to doubt your very senses. Over a period of time this is so insidious and eroding it can literally alter your sense of reality. WARNING: Emotional Manipulation is VERY Dangerous! It is very disconcerting for an emotional manipulator if you begin carrying a pad of paper and a pen and making notations during conversations. Feel free to let them know you just are feeling so "forgetful" these days that you want to record their words for good sake. The stupid thing about this is that having to do such a thing is a clear example for why you should be seriously thinking about removing yourself from range in the first place. If you’re toting a notebook to safeguard yourself , that bullshit meter should be flashing steady by now!
Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt feeders . They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator. Emotional manipulators seldom express their needs or desires openly ,they get what they want through emotional manipulation. Guilt is not the only form of this but it is a potent one. Most of us are pretty conditioned to do whatever is necessary to reduce our feelings of guilt. Another powerful emotion that is used is sympathy. An emotional manipulator is a great victim. They inspire a profound sense of needing to support, care for . Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! Try to make a point of not fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them. A great line is "I have every confidence in your ability to work this out on your own" check out the response and note the bullshit meter once again.
Emotional manipulators fight dirty. They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it. Example: "Of course I want you to go back to work and you know I’ll support you." Then when you get sick they can't be bothered to maintain the household ,but T.V. Works and the dogs shit now in the backyard , while "Sweetie" is sitting on his ass looking at you blankly. Dare you call him on such behavior you are likely to hear, "well you can’t expect me to DO all because you are sick can you honey?" Cry, scream or choke him only the last will have any long-term benefits and it’ll probably wind your butt in jail.
If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor! No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves. If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded and call you selfish , or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight. The thing is that even you know this is not the case you are left with the impossible task of proving it. Don’t bother - TRUST your gut and walk away!
Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them. When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it ,it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better ,fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs ,let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability. They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
This is blog is for a person in my heart that is wasting beautiful years of her life with a Loser!!!
Healthy relationship with goals equals to healthy mind and body ...
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson
When and how do I know im making the right decision? I am sure that's a question you've asked yourself many times in your life. Everyday we make hundreds of choices. From the seemingly small insignificant ones, to the big "life changing" ones, we always wonder in the back of our minds whether or not we just made the right decision.
You always hear people say to trust your intuition, or the saying, "go with your gut". I am a believer of these mottos also. Your first impression or intuition is always the best because it comes straight from the heart and hasn't had a chance to be tainted by all the non supportive thoughts floating around in our heads. Once our Ego gets a hold of the choice, it filters in our desire to perform and the views and mentality of our society. From there it is no longer pure. How many times does that little voice in your head comes in right when you're about to make a decision and add it two cents. It's there for every choice from, whether or not to enter a relationship or business deal, buying something , where to go on your day off or vacation and even down to what we wear when we go out. Then after a few days, months or even years, that wrong feeling you had inside bubbles to the surface and has you questioning all over again, did I make the right decision ...
All decisions we ever make are the right ones. They happen for a specific reason. They're there to show us a lesson or teach us the value in something we need to see in our lives at that time. That may be to be more or less tolerant in our lives. To become aware if we are being too impulsive or resistant. They allow us to look at ourselves to see if we're being ourselves or looking to impress someone. What ever the lesson may be, it's there for us to get something out of it. So, the question remains, are we making the right decision? Whether you're following your first intuition or taking days to mull it over, the answer is: only time can tell and only you will know. Keep your eyes, ears and heart open for what follows and you'll always find your answer.....
My decisions to where I am now in my life are the right ones ... For my happiness , health , I look so much forward to the day ahead and yes there is many unknown events in front of me in my life ,which will bring new decisions to my life , but my life and decisions of the passed are over done . And I don't look back because I have already learned my lessons of the decisions made then ...
Photography and story By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com
Relationships ? Feelings? Trust ? You have alot of unanswered thoughts going through your mind ,well the longer you are in a relationship; odds are distrust will occur at some point. You need to understand where these feelings are coming from first and foremost. It's easy to blame your partner and put unhealthy demands on them. You may even think they are cheating when they are not. I will explore how to build trust back in a relationship and techniques to ensure that you make love last. Often times when the negative feelings arise, some people actually begin to place unrealistic demands and restrictions upon their partner. This can have a very negative effect on the relationship and can actually begin its end. In every relationship, both parties need time by themselves, with friends and obviously together.
Often times when the negative feelings arise, some people actually begin to place unrealistic demands and restrictions upon their partner. This can have a very negative effect on the relationship and can actually begin its end. In every relationship, both parties need time by themselves, with friends and obviously together.
One of the worst things you can do is to remove a person's sense of individuality and freedom to grow as a person. This will only make your partner feel trapped. This will destroy your partners trust and confidence in themselves and they may even grow to think that there is no other way to make you feel happy in your relationship .
The most effective way to build trust back in a relationship is to take a moment and begin to understand some of the common traits of healthy relationships and what it really means to make love last. To love someone does not mean to own or possess them. This is not loving and is very disrespectful to them. Instead we are simply objectifying them and using then to meet our needs. We do not love that person when we use them in such a fashion.
Trust must be developed in ourselves and our partners from within. If for whatever reason your partner does not deserve trust, then restricting their behavior will not help at all. It will worsen the matter considerably. The person will enter a state of rebellion and will subconsciously and consciously find ways to sabotage the relationship in order to regain a sense of the lost freedom. It's difficult to face and realise it at the time , but its the reality and it was my past . The understanding of this will make you move forward .Many people come of past relationship where they were cheated on or hurt in some manner and have not come to terms with what happened. As a consequence, they project these feelings have hurt and insecurity upon their current partner. A new relationship will never heal old wounds. Each person must take the responsibility to work through these feelings and realize that their current partner is different as well as the situation and relationship. Two years ago I changed my life .....when you find yourself , the right person will find you ...
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson , my true life experience for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com
Are you in a controlled relationship?or you don't realise it ? Let me help you .By:Chef Nicholas Anderson
Yes it's a hard subject topic or what ever you want to call it , why ?? Well often there is so many commitments that are in the middle of this ... Kids , finance etc .. So many couples just continue with a manipulative relation and faking happiness on the out side , knowing very well it's grinding them so bad inside .
Nobody should be stuck in that situation , we all have choices ,the hard choices can be also the most rewarding ,and not making the right choices and continuing to be blinded to the reality that your relationship of many years ago has changed for what ever reason and resigning your self to a submissive relation is the best ??? Common wake up before you get to old , I have put together a little mind quiz for you to evaluate yourself and situation ... If your still on my blog now them go through all with a true honesty to your self !
Does your partner:
Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
Put down your accomplishments or goals?
Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
Tell you that you are nothing without them?
Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
Blame you for how they feel or act?
Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
Make you feel like there "is no way out" of the relationship?
Prevent you from doing things you want - like spending time with your friends or family?
Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to "teach you a lesson"?
Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
Feel like no matter what you do, your partner is never happy with you?
Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?
Does this person bring out your best, or worst traits? Do you feed each others' best self, or have you seen your attitudes change to more closely mirror your partner's, which puts off your family and friends?
Be aware of the way he/she behaves with your family and friends, especially if she/he interrupts them, contradicts them, or behaves dismissively. If you feel you need to apologize or explain her behavior to your family or friends, there's a problem there.
Are you realizing it's just become easier not to spend time with people you've loved for years, rather than to make apologies or excuses?
Recognize excessive jealousy or possessiveness. If your partner is protective of you, that's sweet. If they're bizarrely over-protective, it's scary. Consider whether he/she constantly nags about how long it takes you to make a trip to the market or to the post office. Does she/he interrogate you if you aren't home exactly on time, or if you go out for any reason? Do they question you too intensely about why you were talking to another person? Do they tell you that you don't care about them or your children if you spend time with a friend?
Finally ,controlling, manipulative people are not able to just let things happen naturally they must control things or, in their mind, things will "get away" from them so there compelled by their inner horrors to make sure they're the one pulling all the strings. But what makes it most awful is that they're probably pretty ,handsome (you thought so, right?) and smart, funny and charming. It's no wonder you fell for them.....
By:Chef Nicholas Anderson for www.culinaryglobetrotter.com